

In “ I cannot live with You,” the speaker navigates the frustrating unachievable nature of her love, and through this exploration, Dickinson illustrates the futility of seeking to consummate a love that is not to be and speaks to the immense pain that being separated from it causes. Though she desires to be with the unnamed individual, she cannot – it proves impossible for her to either live or die with her beloved due to their circumstances, and the poem, like their relationship, “ends” unresolved. This closing segment of Emily Dickinson’s twelve-stanza poem “ I cannot live with You” is the culmination of the speaker’s struggles with a would-be lover, a struggle arising from the speaker’s separation from this person. Yet it is still meaningful, even if it does not follow the traditional” path that ends with fulfillment. However, love is not always so simple, nor so ideal – some love is destined never to be realized fully or even at all. "It's an odd genesis, but it may explain why there are so many disparate strands to the story," she said.The nearly ceaseless endorsement of the miraculous “happily ever after” ending in love stories and poetry has created the pervasive belief that but one type of love matters: consummated love. Rothschild's agent enquired about another book, and she returned to the shoe box. The book really came together following the success of a previous non-fiction work, The Baroness: The Search for Nica the Rebellious Rothschild, about her great-aunt Baroness Nica de Koenigswarter, who left her husband and sought out the jazz musician Thelonious Monk after hearing one of his records. It wasn't therapy so much as an exploration of ideas."


I'd have a spare evening on a business trip and spend it writing. Time passed and her own heart was broken: "Which is not terribly unusual, but I wrote about that, and then loneliness, and put them into the shoe box." Both passages made it into the final work The painting talking was the first thing in there," she said. "I have a shoe box at home, and in that I put ideas and bits of writing and newspaper clippings.
